Combat fear by developing self-confidence

  Here are few guidelines:

1.  Emphasize your strengths. Focus on what it is that you are capable of achieving and praise yourself for your strength and your struggle than focusing  on the results. Beginning on a foundation of things that you are capable rather than what should you be doing will help you live and work within your limitations.

 2.  Talk to yourself. Examine yourself and practice how to handle situations as  well as counter negative ones. Know when to stop when you catch yourself in a negative assumption. 

For instance, when you find yourself demanding perfection, tell yourself that  everything can not result perfectly.  This will allow you to believe in yourself at  the same time that you are striving to get better.  

3.  Evaluate yourself. Practice how to independently evaluate yourself. This will  let you avoid the persistent sense of confusion that results when you are relying  completely on the opinions and judgment of others. 

4.  Take those risks. When you face and accept experiences as instruments for  learning than possibilities to lose or win, new opportunities can be unlocked and  this can develop your self awareness and acceptance. 

Remember, self-confidence can be developed, not inherited; and fear can be overcome because you have the trust and the faith in yourself to do so.  

Here are some factors that contribute to one’s fear:

1.  When we feel separated, fear increases.  A fact is that one does not fear
those he is familiar with (people and surroundings).  Fear arises when there is a
certain feeling of estrangement, which exhibits overall sense or impression of
suspicion.

2.  Attachment to individuals as well as material things associated with one’s
security cause one to fear that one might loose them, so one will do everything
in order to protect one’s relationships, possessions or his self-image.   

3.  Strange surroundings and unfamiliar people bring about fear. Unfamiliar
situations threat one’s security and usually one reacts with extreme caution and
at times, defensive behavior.

4.  One’s negative memory of past experiences where one had either suffered or
witnessed loss, harm or death aggravates fear. The subconscious retains
memories of the past and at certain circumstances, these are ignited.  

5. Imagination at times can create or invent images of trouble, suffering or pain
outside physical truth or reality.  Note that Imagination is never negative,
however when misused and abused, it can bring so much fear in oneself. 

How To Improve Self-Confidence!

How to gain self confidence

Today is one of those days when your group has to make a presentation to a client. This is an important occasion because it is an opportunity to get your boss' attention. It could mean a raise or a promotion if you could just muster the courage to stand there in front of these people and present your proposal. The problem is, your shyness gets the better of you, and you are relegated to the background.

You sat there mesmerized, as your colleague Elena made a winning presentation of your proposal. She stood there, dressed in a simple gray suit that spelled confidence! "Why can't I gather enough courage to present my work to these people when I know this project like the back of my hand," you ask yourself.

Self confidence. This is what you lack, and this is what your colleague Elena has. But what is self confidence? Is it the ability to speak in a loud voice so you can get people's attention? Is it about power dressing?

Self confidence is an attitude that is characterized by a positive belief that one can take control of one's life and of one's plans.

People who are self confident are those who acknowledge their capacity to do something and then proceed to do these things. They do not rely on the approval of other people in order to affirm their existence. It is enough that they know they have the capacity and the potential to do something, and the guts to do it no matter what others may say. People who are self confident take advantage of the opportunities that comes their way.